Dating site for cancer survivors
“I was desperately looking for ordinary people’s stories of surviving cancer when I was ill, but all I found were celebrities,” says Chris, 48, from Bristol.
“It sounds strange but most people say they’re glad they had cancer because of the new perspective it brings.
It’s that time of year again, after the big major holidays have passed and before the beautiful, renewing Spring weather returns, that we find pink and red hearts everywhere. But does that mean romance is in the air if you’re a cancer survivor? Vanessa is a passionate stage IV survivor and longtime volunteer and buddy for Colon Cancer Alliance.
Also known as Queen V, Vanessa is a tireless advocate for increased screening, education and prevention, especially for the early-age onset population and has done this through her many outreach, patient support and advocacy with different cancer organizations.
There are 70,000 cancer survivors between the ages of 17-44 years old and many of them probably planned to date and marry before cancer derailed them.
This realization often causes fear, anger, sadness and helplessness.
Today, however, you become a survivor literally the minute you are given that devastating news of having cancer in your body.
With that being said, let’s discuss why cancer survivors should be open to dating using my own foray into the dating world as an example.
After my cancer journey was over, I waited three years to get back in the game, because I was taking Tamoxifen and it had several side effects that wouldn’t work well with dating.
I can’t lie, when I was first diagnosed I was in a committed and secure relationship with my then boyfriend and future husband, who was my rock, my strength and my self-esteem.
Just so you can understand how bad my battle with cancer was, I was told that they did not know how effective chemo would be and that I had to get my affairs in order as soon as possible.
As a psychologist, relationship expert and a psychotherapist for 20 years I specialize in dating and relationships. I’m also a breast cancer survivor of three and a half years so I understand this topic as a patient and a healer.
When diagnosed with stage 2 triple negative breast cancer, I had a lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiation and lost all my hair.
God forbid you get cancer, but I guarantee you will find an inner strength to deal with it.” Why waste time? “If I’m awake I have to get up, which drives my wife Catherine mad as sometimes it’s 4am.